Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! I’ve decided to make a quick post that explains a few alternative ways to celebrate the day (with your gals or your pals if you’re single or ace, etc!). I’ll be including some literary quotes, some music videos for a few of my favorite related songs, and some random ideas/advice.
If you’re celebrating with a Significant Other:
“To love another person is to see the face of god.”
It’s wonderful to be in love. It’s an incredible feeling, one that a lot of people enjoy (some don’t, asexual/aromantic folk you are not alone). I’m one of those people who never seems to find myself involved on Valentine’s day, but if you are, consider spending the day curled up watching movies or netflix, taking a break from the hustle and bustle and enjoying eachother’s company. Dinners at fancy restaurants are great, but you can bet they’ll all be crowded tonight. Why not order a pizza and wear sweats, love doesn’t have to be performative.
(No shame to those going out!)
As far as music goes, I’m definitely one for Alicia Keys; she’s one of my go-to artist for love songs, and of course I can’t leave out two of her biggest hits:
If you’re celebrating with Significant Others:
“Soul meets soul on lovers’ lips.”
There’s nothing wrong with polyamory when you’re a part of a healthy, consensual situation. Why not spend some time with everyone, be it today or over the course of a few? Valentine’s Day can probably be fairly hectic for poly folk, and I surely hope that you all enjoy today and others used to celebrate togetherness with your partners.
Picking poly Valentine anthems is something that I am definitely not the best for, but I did think that this song could make a great tongue-in-cheek anthem for your day! (I love her attitude, hopefully this doesn’t translate offensively).
If you’re having a Galentine’s Day:
“She is a friend of mind. She gather me, man. The pieces I am, she gather them and give them back to me in all the right order. It’s good, you know, when you got a woman who is a friend of your mind.”
Amy Poehler isn’t my absolute favorite, but I adore the concept of Galentine’s Day; loosely translated it’s a day spent with girl friends.
There’s something to say about having excellent friends. I have the strongest network of lady friends in Kennesaw (I recently graduated from KSU), and I miss them constantly. If I hadn’t moved I’m sure I’d be spending tonight Netflixing with a bottle of wine (and pizza) on Sierra’s couch with Jessica, Carina, and Carlynn. Last year we celebrated early with a YES!body event (hosted by my committee) that dealt with self-love, body positivity, interpersonal violence prevention, masturbation, and safe sex. You know you’ve got awesome friends when you can all hang out in onesies talking about how we can further smash the heteronormative, transphobic, capitalist, racist, patriarchal society in which we live.
If you’re having a Galentine’s day with friends, blare girl power music. Play it loud. Sing and dance along. I’ve linked Beyonce’s Who Run the World because it’s like girl-power concentrate, and Nicki Minaj’s Anaconda because it’s carefree and upbeat (remember, I’m all about sex positivity, so of course I vibe to Nicki and Bey, not girl hate or slut-shaming).
If you’re having a Palentine’s Day:
“‘Why did you do all this for me?’ he asked. ‘I don’t deserve it. I’ve never done anything for you.’ ‘You have been my friend,’ replied Charlotte ‘That in itself is a tremendous thing.’”
I was scrolling through the Valentine’s Day tag on Tumblr this morning when I stumbled upon a post that talked about how Galentine’s Day wasn’t inclusive for non-binary folk, and I of course agreed. Palentine’s Day leaves room for non-binary, guy, or girl friends to all hang out and have a good time celebrating their friendships.
Some friend-tunes I’ve found are as follows! The RHCP song isn’t exactly bright and sunshiney but it’s a solid friendship anthem for those who deal with depression (me). Ignore Kanye’s horrible misogyny and enjoy Clique for the beat and theme. I’ve thrown in my fave John Legend song because it’s excellent for long-time friends or family.
If you’re having a V-Day Me Day:
“I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful, and if I could do that, maybe there is hope for them too. And the great divide between the beautiful and the ugly will cease to be. Because we are all what we choose.”
Self-love is a constant struggle for me, but on the days where it is my main focus, I often find myself feeling incredibly happy. As Margaret Cho’s quote states, we have the power to be strong and beautiful no matter our appearance (who honestly cares about appearance over everything else anyway?).
Let’s not forget folks on the ace spectrum; y’all can definitely enjoy this day with friends or loved ones in your own way, or by yourself. Spoil yourself, spoil those around you, spoil them with love over gifts.
If you’re dedicating today to self-love, I would suggest listening to Florence and the Machine. She’s one of my go-tos for fun music. She writes wildly unique lyrics, and Ceremonials is by far my favorite album of hers. She does write a considerable number of love songs, but she’s multi-dimensional enough that they aren’t ever stereotypical or overwhelming.
HEART SHAPED PIZZAS FOR EVERYONE!
Since they always seem to be a hit, I’ve decided to link some options for ordering or making heart-shaped pizzas! They work fine for any form of celebration, or just for the sake of having a pizza:
Papa John’s Valentine’s Day Special includes a heart-shaped one topping and a big brownie for $15.
Pizza Hut is apparently offering heart-shaped pizzas at select locations, so you’ll need to contact your local Pizza Hut to see if they have them.
If you’re feeling a culinary inclination, you can try one of these recipes: Beet Crust Heart-Shaped Pizza, Pillsbury’s Valentine’s Pizza Recipe, or whichever recipe you use to make pizza from scratch.
I hope you all have a wonderful day, be it with a significant other/others, friends, family, or alone!